Learn about Each Other, Improve Relationship in Virtual Meeting for Couples

February 17, 2021, 8:34 am | Anthony Santiago, David Brown

older couple drinking coffee, talking, smiling by Aleksandra Suzi/stock.adobe.com.AMES, Iowa – Strong and lasting relationships are built upon the knowledge that couples have about their partner and themselves. Couples must make a constant effort to update each other on daily happenings, circumstances, wants and needs. By doing this, couples are more likely to turn to each other, even in difficult times. That is the premise of Enlighten, the fourth in a series of virtual meetings to help couples elevate their relationship.

Lori Korthals, human sciences specialist with Iowa State University Extension and Outreach, and Mary Tuttle, county coordinator for ISU Extension and Outreach Cherokee County, will lead the virtual meeting Wednesday, Feb. 24, from 12:15 to 12:45 p.m. During this session, they will review two simple tools that couples can immediately use to improve their relationship.

The information presented will be based on ELEVATE, a relationship education curriculum developed by the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Network.


“The last year has certainly changed our lives and many couples are feeling the stress of having to cope with social isolation and distancing. This stress impacts how we are communicating with each other,” Tuttle said.

Couples must continue to learn about each other because social distancing can also create emotional distance when partners are under stress. In this lesson, Korthals and Tuttle will help couples to learn more about each other’s preferences, hopes and the positive experiences that influence each partner and their relationship.

“We will focus on two ways to do this: by remembering positive moments and by using love maps,” Korthals said.

Join Korthals and Tuttle on Wednesday, Feb. 24, at 12:15 p.m. To register, select a date listed in the Upcoming Events section at https://www.extension.iastate.edu/humansciences/elevate. Information about access to a unique Zoom room will be emailed to registered participants prior to each program.

Other resources

Iowa Concern, offered by ISU Extension and Outreach, provides confidential access to stress counselors and an attorney for legal education, as well as information and referral services for a wide variety of topics. With a toll-free phone number, live chat capabilities and a website, Iowa Concern services are available 24 hours a day, seven days per week at no charge. To reach Iowa Concern, call 800-447-1985; language interpretation services are available. Or, visit the website, https://www.extension.iastate.edu/iowaconcern/, to live chat with a stress counselor one-on-one in a secure environment. Or, email an expert regarding legal, finance, stress, or crisis and disaster issues.

211 is a free, comprehensive information and referral line linking Iowa residents to health and human service programs, community services, disaster services and governmental programs. This service is collaborating with the Iowa Department of Public Health to provide confidential assistance, stress counseling, education and referral services related to COVID-19 concerns.  

For more information, contact Anthony Santiago at 515-294-7042 or (cell) 515-291-0452, or David Brown at 515-294-0860 or (cell) 515-298-1505.

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