Many times these individuals will state emphatically that they are trying to work things out. However, their behavior is clearly headed in the other direction. In these cases, the individual has confused the spoken desire to work things out with the unspoken intent to get the outcome to be what they want it to be.
I was asked how to deal with a co-worker who was a “control freak”. When I asked how the client made the inference that the co-worker was a “control freak”, I received the following description of what was happening.