I personally experience frustration and distress. But isn’t that just the way life is and the way it has always been? No doubt this is the case. However, I do experience two things in my own life that are very different today than twenty-five or thirty years ago.
If resistance is the leading challenge to new thinking and new ideas, it seems to me that we should be preparing people, especially young people, on how to handle change better.
When we are faced with a change that causes us to re-examine our beliefs about ourselves or our world, perhaps that change is more difficult because it requires us to redefine ourselves and the world. It causes us to change our worldview.
it is not the change that is the difficult part. Instead, it is the transition that the change initiates that makes it tough to cope. The change causes an end to the way it was or has been. This then triggers the transition.
When I am faced with a change, whether it is one I have chosen or one that has been “forced” on me, I find my immediate response is to think about all that I have to give up. I am pretty content to maintain the way I have been functioning. I have to consciously think about what I’m doing. I have to work at making the new behavior a part of my day. At the same time I am grieving the loss of my old behavior. It is like losing a part of me.
Then the day came when the hard copies stopped and I was not able to do my job unless I gave in and used the computer. I felt lost and out of control. I didn’t know what to do or what to expect. I wanted it to return to the old system, but I knew that was not going to happen. I was confused and didn’t know how I was going to handle it.
The truth is that the glass is both half-full and half-empty at the same time. Life will not be the same, but it will continue to provide opportunities.
If I want to change this habit, it becomes a very easy thing to do. WRONG! It is not that easy because I now have to retrain my brain to form the new habit by changing my behavior. The good news is this unhealthy, unproductive habit can be changed.
Things begin to fall through the cracks, causing hurt feelings or uncertainty about what to do. People start doing things their own way without saying much to the other group. The other group begins to question what that individual is doing and if that person is representing the whole group or not. Criticism happens and people start questioning each other’s motives. Suddenly the trust between the groups, which was really trust of the central individual, starts slipping and anger and frustration appear to replace the cooperative working relationship that once existed. Now conflict is center stage and people are really convinced the world has gone bad very quickly.
While not all change is good, embrace the changing process and see it as a time to learn and stretch yourself. Until next time, identify a current change and apply the thoughts above to that situation.