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How does one person shut down a discussion?

I’ve had several instances in person and via email lately that I mentally thought….that was a discussion stopper. I wanted to explain how one person can do that--shut down a discussion that had it continued would have had some benefit to solve a problem or move a group on to accomplishments.

This is from Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen of the Harvard Negotiation Project---

They write about how you can give the impression of being unapproachable. One does it by appearing or being--
Uninterested
Unpredictable
Short-tempered
Judgmental
Punitive
Hypersensitive
Argumentative
Unfriendly

I think those attitudes are a good assessment of how one person can shut down a conversation.

Perhaps people who exhibit those attitudes ask what’s to be gained by discussion. I’d suggest
Ideas
Investment
Uncovering perceptions
--all steps forward with civility.

What do you think?

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