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A masquerade makes you think it’s something it’s not. It’s a disguise or something concealed.

David Kundtz in his book “Stopping: How to Be Still When You Have to Keep Going” explains a masquerade is like a pile of rocks that gets bigger and bigger. When does that pile of rocks become a mountain?

He says the pace, demands and choices today are a masquerade making us believe we should be able to juggle more each day but really these demands have become something else. We just don’t realize it.

Never-ending tasks create stress which can lead to incivility
Are you on holiday if you call in or answer email? Are you communicating if you don’t listen to the responses? Does participating in social networking sites make you social? More masquerades.

Kundtz advocates stopping. “Stopping is doing nothing as much as possible, for a definite period of time (one second to one month) for the purpose of becoming more fully awake and remembering who you are.”

He says ‘doing nothing’ should not be confused with a total lack of activity. Stopping lets you get in touch with the essential meanings of your life and remember what is truly important so you can keep your priorities in order. It helps you know what you want to achieve and how you want to behave.

Are you simply moving through your days or experiencing them?
Time spent doing nothing can awaken what is most meaningful and valuable to you. It allows you to slow down so you don’t miss the important things. Stopping is moments of remembering, awareness and contemplation. It can be a time of critical reflection.

Sometime in the next several days (if not today), I encourage you to try stopping.


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