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What is your personal value?

This is a third post inspired by ‘The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life’s Dreams’ by Tim Sanders.

Each of us has three different values that make up our personal value. It’s what we offer others minus what we require.

People go through a decision-making process to decide how they value you.
First, they listen, particularly seeking a return of attention.
Then people decide whether to believe or not to believe what they’ve heard. They consider the source and then the message. People check these against other information they have and their beliefs.
Finally, they assign a value.

Your functional value is your ability to perform and do something well minus how much money or support you require.

Your emotional value is how you make others feel minus the negative feelings you create via being overly critical, pessimistic or highly emotional.

Your social value is how you make others feel showing respect and admiration minus the costs if you generate complaints or dissension.

You can be a liability in any of these values.

A likeable personality improves your overall value.
You haven’t given anyone reason to believe you will produce emotional or social problems.
You don’t send out warning signals that you have a negative attitude or temper tantrums.
You’re perceived as creating warm feelings and positive attitudes. You’re conscientious, emotionally and socially mature.

Your values and likeability are not static.

They move up and down with the work you do and your civility.