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Work relationships to stay away from or let drift away

Incivility—Relationships with hostility
A bully can certainly create a hostile work environment. Attacks occur when you least expect them. There are several ways to distance yourself. You can try to separate yourself as much as possible from the person. You can get out. You can revert to no longer caring about any work you do with this person. You have to do something to protect yourself because chances are, no one else is going to.

Stephen Covey in ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ talks about being consumed by someone you hate, putting an enemy at the center of your life. That person is at the center of your life only if you allow her or him to be.

Civility---Relationships to let go
You may find as your work or the people change, you work less with someone. Let it be a conscience decision of which relationships are worth keeping and those you can let go. If you don’t have the same values, it’s a pretty easy decision to let the relationship founder. It’s difficult to spend time where your values are if you keep relationships purely for historical reasons.

Separating yourself from one person can bring simplicity or let you strengthen quality relationships.

It's up to you to decide who you let stay, who you let walk away and who you refuse to let go.

Oct. 18, 2007--Most bullies in the workplace are opportunists and workplace politicians


The last sentence in the above article pretty well sums up each and every person who comes into our life...co- workers, friends, even family members. It's up to each of us to decide who we refuse to let go. The hard part is to separate from those who you do not enjoy being around, without offending them!

Thanks for writing this blog. It has helped me through the some very trying times over the past few months.

I whole-heartedly agree with the concept of letting go of a bully and that only you can stop a bully's impact on you.

I have been working very to seperate myself from the bully I currently report to - he doesn't deserve to be considered my manager or boss. Fortunately I will be free of him in three months, I hope my co-workers will soon be free of him as well.