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The handshake and the name badge

A firm handshake with good eye contact communicates self-confidence.

Shaking hands is often appropriate when you are introduced, arrive for a business meeting, close a deal or leave an event, says Giovinella Gonthier in ‘Rude Awakenings: Overcoming the Civility Crisis in the Workplace’. Look the other person in the eye, grip his or her right hand firmly and shake hands up and down several times. If you are seated, stand for introductory or farewell handshakes.

You may use your left hand to grasp the other side of the person's hand or to touch his or her arm. This gesture makes the handshake warmer and more personal.

Name badge
Wear your name badge on your right side. The person you shake hands with can easily read your name. I’ve done this for years after reading the tip. It’s a civil thing to do for those who didn’t understand your name when introduced or can’t quite think of your name if he or she should know you or is one of those visual types who needs to see the name in print to remember it.


Good advise but worth remembering the counsel of our NLP friends... try to reflect the style and intensity of the people we are with. The crushing hand shake is only appropriate with a crusher. The "fingers only" presentation ought to be met with appropriate gentility.

I think the point is to reach out. For the gregarious, this easy. For the rest of us, it requires a commitment and some practice.

Stan used to say before he went to a gathering he thought of four questions to ask about things that were sufficiently general to permit anyone to respond and sufficiently tuned to the gathering to be appropriate. This an a good handshake have gotten me through some not-very-comfortable times.