How do you know...
if you are the difficult person?
Tough question. Posed by a coworker after she read the most-recent post.
Good assertive people, long-long standing people in your life let you know. Siblings. Spouse. Constant friends. Your kids. Maybe some people in your workplace.
You know after you've asked a coworker for a response, say three times. Too focused, have blinders on, want to finish this project. I generally do it unawares. Forgotten I've asked two times before.
Obviously, there are different degrees of being difficult and frequency of being difficult. I wanted a test. So did my coworker.
Try the Likeability Factor self-assessment
by Tim Sanders, author of ‘The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life's Dreams’ and ‘Love is the Killer App’, a link in the resources list.