How do you know...
if you are the difficult person?
Tough question. Posed by a coworker after she read the most-recent post.
Good assertive people, long-long standing people in your life let you know. Siblings. Spouse. Constant friends. Your kids. Maybe some people in your workplace.
You know after you've asked a coworker for a response, say three times. Too focused, have blinders on, want to finish this project. I generally do it unawares. Forgotten I've asked two times before.
Obviously, there are different degrees of being difficult and frequency of being difficult. I wanted a test. So did my coworker.
Try the Likeability Factor self-assessment
by Tim Sanders, author of ‘The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life's Dreams’ and ‘Love is the Killer App’, a link in the resources list.
http://www.timsanders.com/images-downloads/l-factor-self-assessment.pdf
Comments
This is one where it may be hard to get a "real" score, no?
people who are already blind to their unlikable-ness may not answer appropriately.
The biggest lessons I learned about my own boorishness came from recognizing my behaviors in others - wow!
Posted by: anon | March 22, 2007 01:31 PM
One of the snippets that has stayed with me from years-ago teen reading is the idea that what bothers you most about someone else is probably also a characteristic you have yourself
Posted by: anon | March 23, 2007 11:41 AM