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How are healthy workplace relationships like healthy marriages?

The Administration for Children and Families at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services defines a healthy marriage as having two basic characteristics. First, healthy marriages are mutually enriching, and second, both spouses have a deep respect for each other.
It is a mutually satisfying relationship that is beneficial to the husband, wife, and children (if present).
It is a relationship that is committed to ongoing growth, the use of effective communication skills and the use of successful conflict management skills.

Doesn’t this also define healthy workplace relationships, whether provider to client, between coworkers or supervisor to employee?
Respect: an act of giving particular attention, consideration; high or special regard, esteem
Enriching: to make rich or richer especially by the addition of some desirable quality or attribute
Satisfying: to make happy, to give pleasure
Beneficial: conducive to personal or social well-being

And then
committed to ongoing growth,
the use of effective communication skills, and
the use of successful conflict management skills

This can apply to siblings, to other relatives, to really good friends. I like this definition a lot and happened across it while proofing a transcript for an extension project. Think about it, work towards healthy relationships...

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends……
So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
---from 1 Corinthians 13, Revised Standard Version Bible


I had a recent experience in the workplace that illustrates the importance of respect, enrichment,satisfaction and 'beneficial-ity'.

I was treated with esteem when I went to interview for a lifelonglinks psa with Doug Cooper. I was notified by e-mail weeks before and then again days before, with accurate details of the interview and it's purpose, background information and directions. When I arrived, Kathy Hunt, and graduate student, Kristina McFee, had prepared a quiet space with comfortable chairs and refreshments and time to allow those being interviewed to relax. I was given a gift bag, adorned with my name on a creative gift tag, full of small items related to the interview topic. I also received a free pass to Reiman Gardens which I used that day. None of these gestures were difficult or expensive and I felt like a celebrity!

Cooperation, creativity and productivity follow encounters like that! Hospitality is an art I would like to revive in my own circle of influence.

Research concurs that offering hospitality is as beneficial to the giver as it is to the recipient. We would all be doing ourselves and our relationships, professionally and personally, a favor with a little extra TLC.