Perhaps the most potent and tested counsel for all who truly want to motivate other or help them achieve their own motive-action, is the following.  Think about it again and again and again.

• Ask, listen and hear in order to determine their wants, needs and possibilities.

Telling diminishes others.  Asking enhances and empowers others.
All can be canceled or negated by negative listening.

• Waiting until the other person has stopped speaking and then saying what you were going to say anyhow.
• One provides an answer without knowing the question.
• Another way to destroy good communication is to finish the other person's sentence for him/her out loud.

The Master Motivator by Mark Victor Hansen and Joe Batten