By: Donna Andrusyk
ISU Extension Family Life Field Specialist
Being parents of teenagers is not for the faint hearted. Teenagers are dealing with challenging issues. “Being aware of these issues will help parents survive and enjoy these years,” says Donna Andrusyk, an Iowa State University Extension Family Life Field Specialist.
Andrusyk reminds parents of the many developmental changes and needs of teenagers.
- Need for independence
- Need to establish own authority
- Need for privacy
- Changes in emotions
- Rapid physical growth
- Changes in hormones
- Maturing body
- Greater importance of peers
These changes and needs are usually played out in typical teen behavior. For example, a teenager tries to become independent or establish his/her own authority by sassing you, staying out too late, questioning your values or not doing chores. This is a challenging time for parents – how do you provide support and guidance while allowing your teen to slowly take control of his/her own life. It’s a question many parents of teenagers struggle with as they try to maintain a loving parent-child relationship.
Raising teenagers can be stressful. Or, it can be an exciting experience. You get to watch your child mature, become more responsible, establish relationships, explore careers, and start to realize his/her potential. Knowing what to expect makes parenting easier. Ask at the Grundy County Extension Office for the newly revised publication series – Living with your teenager. The publications can also be accessed online at: https://www.extension.iastate.edu/store/
- Understanding Emotional Changes (PM944a) – Learn what causes increased emotionality in your teenager and how to deal with it.
- The Changing Parent-Child Relationship (PM944b) – Learn about the struggles between parents and teenagers, along with the helpful attitudes and expectations that will ease parent/teen conflicts.
- Understanding Changes in Thinking (PM944c) – Learn about the way your teenager thinks about him/herself and about values you are teaching to your child.
- Understanding Physical Changes (PM944d) – Learn about the changes in your teenager’s body and how to prepare him/her for these changes. This may help you support your child through this difficult time.
Teenagers will be making difficult and far-reaching decisions about relationships, lifestyles, employment, and education. Parents can: offer support, be role models, provide information, and keep communication flowing. The reward for the hard work of the teen years is the parent-adult child relationship that develops.
Brenda Everts
10/14/2009