Strong Marriage during tough times.

  •  Give your spouse your full attention.
  • Be Open and respectful of each other's opinions even when you disagree.
  • Clarify what you don't understand with words like: "Tell me about " or "How long have you felt this way?"
  • Relate your feelings simply and directly when it is your turn to talk.
  • Describe how a person's behavior affects you "I feel _____ when ____ happens" rather than judge, blame, or evaluate
  • Be aware of how your body, tone of voice, and timing for holding the conservation might be interpreted.  Problems arise when verbal and non verbal messages are different.
  • Develop an Action Plan together to work on keeping the communication lines open between you and your spouse during times that are tough by agreeing to:
  • Express frequently
  • Arrange to have quality time together
  • Keep your communication open
  • See that responibility for family decisions are shared
  • Maintain flexibilty
  • Make time for demonstrating love and affection for each other.


5/11/2009

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  • Atlantic, IA 50022
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